The excitement and anticipation, the butterflies. Maybe we even cross our fingers, willing it to be our name called out. We probably even feel a little light headed. And then there’s also the flicker of disappointment when it’s not our name.
I was born in 1984 so was lucky enough to grow up in the glorious 90’s; a time of Saved by the Bell, boybands, recording your favourite song off the radio on to a tape, Super Nintendo, slouch socks over leggings. And a time where not everyone received an award purely for showing up!
I think in my 28 years of dancing I’ve perhaps won 3 or 4 awards. Not a lot… I know I have 13-year-old students who have quadruple that – some from dancing, some from other activities.
I know without a doubt the awards they have received from Dance Division are absolutely deserved, because ever since my first year of running the school I’ve made a point of taking particular care about selecting the recipients. It’s a touchy area for a dance teacher, but one that I am passionate about.
Of the 4 awards I received there’s actually one that still irks me. I can’t remember how old I was, somewhere between 16-18 I think. I remember sitting on the stage after the concert, listening to various names being called out, holding my breath a little when the senior ballet award was being announced. And there it was, that familiar flicker of disappointment that it wasn’t me. But then a brand new feeling washed over me when my name was read out for the “Most Improved” award. Surprised, but mostly annoyed. My instant reaction was that I didn’t deserve this award. Most improved from what, I thought???? I received Honours in my exam last year and again this year. What did I do to deserve this??
I remember going back to the dressing rooms and seeing my mum – one look from her and I knew she was thinking the same thing. My mind kept deferring to another girl in my class who had worked so hard this last year; she had gone from missing a lot of dancing the previous year and doing so much to catch up and come back stronger this year. She should have won this award not me. Somehow my award felt like an obligation – Claire did really well in her exams again, so we better give her something. Hmm.
Awards at Dance Division
I think this experience taught me a lot about awards, and the positive and negative affect they can have on students. It’s certainly one of the reasons why I feel so strongly about the awards we give out at Dance Division. Our Achievement Award doesn’t necessarily go to the ‘best’ or most technically brilliant dancer, but rather one who demonstrates the following qualities:
These are the qualities we value at Dance Division and together help a student shine brightly in our eyes.
We do make an exception however for our gorgeous 3-5 year olds… They all take home a medal each year as we feel it’s very important to acknowledge our youngest and the great job they do coming to class every week. Getting up on stage at 3 years of age is a pretty big deal!
Valuable Life Lessons
Very occasionally I will have a parent ask me why we don’t give an award to every single student. And I have a very particular view on this.
I like to think that dance classes aren’t just about learning to dance. They’re also about building character. Learning to work well as a team with your fellow classmates, and learning to be respectful of others. Learning to work towards a goal – whether that be exams or a concert or mastering that adage – and the sense of achievement that comes in reaching that goal. It’s also about learning to cope with criticism. Dancers know that feedback and constructive criticism are not a personal attack, but rather a tool to help them improve and extend themselves.
One of the most important life skills we can learn from an awards ceremony is that often we do not get everything we want. Everyone at some point will lose or experience disappointment. The key is how we deal with those disappointments and how we grow from them. Hello resilience! We must learn to lose with grace and humility. We should also get the motivation to succeed! The truth is that if there were no failures, then no one would be inspired to take on challenges with fierce determination! It’s difficult to always do our best, and to always try our hardest and that’s ok. But no one will work hard if they are being rewarded for something that is below their best. If everyone gets a trophy… does anyone learn anything?
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